This reflection questionnaire is a tool to help people reflect on a difficult relationship, challenging situation or traumatic event.
As an adaptable template, it can be used in a variety of circumstances. It is designed to help someone acknowledge the effect a situation has had on them, including physically, emotionally, relationally and spiritually.
An individual can use their answers to then talk about how they have been affected and what moving forward looks like for them.
It can be used by an individual for personal reflection.
It can also be used as part of a community reflection or debrief process.
By hearing multiple reflections, an organisation can gain an overview of the impact of a big event, look for trends or discover common themes.
How to use these questions:
First, identify the difficult situation. This can be a person (my father), a single word (pandemic), a phrase (my parent’s divorce), or a few sentences describing an event (the time the youth group got lost on a tramp in a storm).
Questions 1-9 involve looking at how the event/situation has affected you.
Questions 10 - 15 ask you to consider what moving forward looks like to you.

1 John 4: 16-21
God is love, and those who abide in love abide in God, and God abides in them. Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness on the day of judgment, because as he is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not reached perfection in love. We love because he first loved us. Those who say, “I love God,” and hate their brothers or sisters, are liars; for those who do not love a brother or sister whom they have seen, cannot love God whom they have not seen. The commandment we have from him is this: those who love God must love their brothers and sisters also.